The Tempestuous Journey of Dating a Self-Improver
We all have our types. Some go for bad boys and bad girls. Others go for wallflowers that are content to keep to themselves at the sidelines. The list goes on. However, there’s one type that rarely, if ever, gets discussed: the self-improver.
As the term suggests, these are people dedicated to bettering themselves in some shape or form. Reading that is sure to conjure up thoughts of early morning workouts, journaling, meditation, and what have you.
Yet, now that the type has been brought up in the realm of dating, the question remains: what is it like to date one? Here’s what to expect, for better and for worse:
Self-Improvers are Self-Aware . . . Sometimes to a Fault
No one can determine the need to improve if one doesn’t possess the tiniest hint of self-awareness. That is a trait that self-improvers have in spades. They know what they want and do everything in their power to get it. Oftentimes, it’s one of the most attractive things about them.
If you’re dating a self-improver, chances are, he or she is serious about you. Without so much on their plate, to merit entry into his or her life speaks volumes. Yet, if the person you want to date can’t find the time or enthusiasm for you, then it’s time to face facts: the self-improver still knows what he or she wants but that doesn’t include you.
Self-Improvers Manage Time and Stress Well . . . For the Most Part
Remember that no journey towards self-improvement is complete without having to juggle numerous responsibilities at once. That implies the capacity to manage one’s time efficiently and the capacity to handle stress. When dating self-improvers, those traits are often beyond appealing.
However, we’re all just human. Self-improvers will make time for you until something more important comes along. That’s harsh, but it’s a cold, hard fact. As far as stress, we all have our limits. With the high standards that some people hold themselves to, burnouts and breakdowns are inevitable, which you’ll have to deal with as well.
Self-Improvers Can Be Inspiring . . . if You Can Keep Up
Another great thing about this type is that they can often inspire others to try becoming the best versions of themselves. After all, it can be hard to stay on the sidelines as your self-improver partner accomplishes goal after goal. Chances are, you’ll want to join in at some point with your own brand of self-improvement.
However, what starts out as a source of inspiration for you may eventually lead to a lot of stress. If you aren’t as dedicated as your partner, it can be difficult to keep up. You may fall off with your own efforts, and soon your better half will leave you in the dust.
A self-improver for a partner can provide the highest of highs, but the lows that come can also be rather daunting to face. Pros and cons like this come with the territory of every romantic type, so the best course of action is to know what to expect and come prepared as the challenges pop up in your relationship.