Signs She's Unhappy in Your Relationship

Is your partner always miserable in your company? Do they look like they'd rather be anywhere else? If so, your relationship may have issues.

No one is, unfortunately, exempt from relationship problems. They're universal experiences that even the jolliest people go through.

One of those issues is relationship dissatisfaction.

Admitting you're unhappy in your relationship is difficult—even for yourself. As much as you want to feel happy with your partner, you just can't shake your feelings off. And that's fine. Being honest with your dissatisfaction is much better than faking contentment.

This unhappiness is normal from time to time. However, it's a different story when it becomes constant. What if your partner's showing signs telling you something her words aren't?

A Troubled Relationship: Signs She's No Longer Happy

Unhappiness in a relationship has various forms. Some are obvious, while others are subtle. Regardless of their nature, recognizing the signs is important if you want answers.

Here are some warnings that may give you hints about your partner's unhappiness:

1. Diminished quality time

Do you remember your relationship's honeymoon phase? You and your partner used to spend every moment possible together.

Nowadays, all that's left of your quality time is lingering meals.

You don't have to spend every minute with each other. You still have your personal lives, after all. However, it's concerning when you stop making the most out of your time together. Date nights are no longer fun and the quiet moments become like a chore. When the effort stops, don't be surprised if your partnership turns into a cold relationship.

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2. Preference for alone time

Asking for “me” time is healthy. Everyone needs a breather from their lives from time to time. Even long-term couples need it every now and then. Your partner isn't the only person you should make time for in your life.

But your relationship may be in a delicate state if your partner barely does anything with you. You see them spending more time with their other loved ones. It makes you feel as if they'd rather see other people rather than come home to you and be stuck in a bad marriage.

3. Communication style change

Let's say your partner used to be a responsive and enthusiastic communicator. They'd send quick replies without hints of doubt and sarcasm.

However, they've gradually changed. It's either they send one-word responses or don't reply to you at all. It's as if they're shutting you out of their lives.

You know your partner is unhappy in your relationship if their communication style toward you drastically changes. When this change gets too uncomfortable, you may want to approach and talk to her about it.

4. Increased annoyance/irritability

Does your partner frequently nitpick every little thing you do in their presence? Does their mood become instantly sour around you? If both cases apply, they may have underlying discontent.

Don't wait for your partner to constantly project their unhappiness onto you, especially if it's over minor things. Sit them down and calmly ask why they're feeling frequently irritable.

5. Lack of or decreased intimacy

Are you looking for another sign of your partner's dissatisfaction? Look at your relationship's intimacy levels. While it's not the ultimate happiness indicator, it plays a role in maintaining satisfaction.

Intimacy doesn't stop at physical efforts. Emotional intimacy matters too. Your partner may feel alone and trapped if they can't be open and vulnerable around you. If you aren't on the same page physically and emotionally, your relationship may burn out and run its course.

6. Constant fights

Of all the signs on this list, this is, perhaps, the most obvious one. Your partner is clearly unhappy in your relationship if you often fight, especially over insignificant matters. This creates divisions that may be hard to resolve.

If the constant fights don't stop, you and your partner may want to be honest with yourselves. Whatever your feelings are, don't let your frequent disagreements poison an already-toxic environment.

7. Lack of arguments

Common sense tells you that frequent fights are troubling signs. However, you can say the same thing for the opposite: something is wrong if you and your partner don't fight anymore.

Disagreements are always unpleasant. But if there's one good thing about them, it's this: they show how invested you are in your relationship. If you always agree on everything, consider that as a sign of stagnancy. It's as if you've given up on your relationship's growth.

8. Lack of gratitude/appreciation

Relationships naturally lead you to do many things for your partner. Among those are splitting financial obligations and household chores. Your partner may not need a “thank you” for every gesture, but they want to feel appreciated—and they should be!

If one or both of you stop appreciating each other's efforts, you'll find yourselves demotivated to continue your relationship. This demotivation sows dissatisfaction, which may push one or both of you to leave.

9. Grudges and contempt

Unfortunately, some of us save the worst of our anger for our partners. Anger is such a destructive element that creates distance. And the more you let it fester, the lesser chances there are of coming back from it.

It takes more energy to have contempt and hold grudges than it is to relax. Don't allow anger to consume your partner (and yourself).

10. Jealousy toward single friends

Your partner may be showing signs of feeling trapped in a relationship if they feel envious of their single friends. Like them, they want to feel the excitement of playing the dating field.

When Leaving is Better than Staying

Unhappiness in a relationship doesn't always guarantee an imminent breakup. In some cases, however, ending things is a better decision rather than sticking things out.

With that, how do you know leaving is the right choice?

One, you may want to make your exit if your relationship is only giving you discontentment. It's one of the effects of staying in an unhappy relationship, so don't bother staying in an unsatisfying environment.

Two, you may also end things if you feel like your relationship's foundation can't be rebuilt. If your partner's trust, loyalty, and honesty have irreparable damage, what's the point in making things work?

Three, you need to get out if the dissatisfaction leads to abuse. There's no place for violence anywhere.

If your partner is unhappy in your relationship, address the discontentment as soon as possible. Whether you two break up or not, you shouldn't allow the dissatisfaction to become irreparable.